Trauma fragments your soul. It breaks you into parts. You must have remembered in Harry Potter the soul of Voldermot had broken into 7-8 parts and for this he had to do terrible things. Whether you are emotionally hurt yourself or someone hurts you both are fragmented in soul.
This fragmented soul themself broken, breaks others. Work has to be done on an emotional level to mend these invisible scars to become whole again. And so it determines that only healed people can heal the world around them. And this is why psychotherapy is so very important for each and every individual. It heals you from within when you find a loving accepting environment. You start mending yourself.
Take deep breaths, relax and say this aloud to yourself every night before you go to sleep
– I allow myself to feel what I have inside
– I forgive the parts I once feared
– I welcome home what I rejected
– I accept all of myself right now
– I have integrated
Once you have done this it will be a quiet end of the inner war. The war between the different parts example fearful and fearless or loving and loveless. It will be a reconciliation of all parts. And what do you think it will do?
All your parts will be seen and integrated. This will give you peace within. You will now be able to identify your needs. And the most basic need you will identify is love. When they say, all you need is love, its true. But the hyper independence, the over-drive for production and success, is due to this fragmentation of the soul. We have been divided in parts. And this has disconnected us not only from ourself but also from our environment. This can only be mended through this act of self love – accepting all our parts. We donot realise we need love. We are not grounded in our thinking that it is a need of the heart to keep us thriving. The result are beliefs such
I don’t need love. There is no real love. Marriage is a compromise. Parenting is a duty. Obedience is mandatory. I have to be the Provider. I have to be the Carer. etc.
All of the above beliefs result due to a fragmented soul. Coaching is work on the analytical mind while therapy is work done on the heart or the emotional mind. Simply understanding what needs to be done does not hinge these beliefs. It requires you to actually work on your heart. It requires you to do deeper work.
Once the soul is integrated, it starts to feel again. The once narcissistic person slowly moves towards an empathetic person. It starts to understand what they really need. They are now healed. True healing happens at the heart level and makes you an even more successful person.
Real peace is attained when all the warring parts are reconciled and seen. They are not abandoned, they are not dismissed. Once the soul is integrated peace is attained. And what do you think it will do to its environment? Just like an organized mind organises his surrounding, a healed mind heals the environment…
